Counselling can help you with significant life events such as a bereavement, unemployment, divorce or relationship difficulties and other traumatic life events . It can help improve medical conditions such as depression, anxiety or an eating disorder, and it may also help improve physical problems such as troubled sleep, high blood pressure or panic attacks.
It could also be that you are here and you don't fully know what the issue is, but have a sense that things feel wrong. That is ok. Whatever your reasons for attending counselling, please be assured that you don't have to try cope with things on your own any more.
Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, which can range from mild to severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point, as it is the body's natural response to stress but you may find that your anxiety is excessive and that it is having a big impact on your life. It could be that your anxiety manifests itself through a host of physical and mental symptoms. Persistent anxiety can lead to sadness, unhappiness and depression. In counselling, we will work on identifying the underlying factors that cause you to feel anxiety and/or depression and then address them.
As well as bereavement, there are other types of loss such as the end of a relationship or losing a job or home. Grief and loss is unbelievably hard and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Most people experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. Grief can cause a range of symptoms such as sadness, hopelessness, loss of purpose or guilt, to name a few. In counselling for bereavement, we will work on normalising these feelings and look at your ways of coping. Beyond this, we will try to find meaning in life and work on being able to move forward in a continuing symbolic relationship with your loved one.
Every family is different but many families face similar struggles such as:
*Difficulties in childhood
* Familial estrangement
* Arguments *Parental guilt
*Challenging behaviours *Risk taking behaviours
*Bonding & attachment *Anxiety & low mood
*Divorce *School and work life stress
* Friendships issues, isolation and loneliness
* Marital difficulties
If you are, then the likelihood is that difficulties within the family unit will be impacting on you, emotionally, psychologically and even physically. Making sure you have the support you need is important and could possibly be the best way that you can help you and your family long-term.
Self esteem is how people value themselves. You may feel positive and confident in your own abilities and your life, or feel negative and highly critical of yourself. Low self-esteem can influence many aspects of your life, including work and relationships with family and friends.
You may spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others; thinking that you don't measure up to them or that you are worthless, which, in turn, affects your confidence.
Counselling can help you explore the way you feel and change your view of yourself and others by helping you to recognise and address the negative messages are that contributing to low self esteem and confidence.
Sadly, LGBTQI individuals are still often judged through a heteronormative lens of what is and isn’t ‘normal' and can find that living with the stigma and oppression that often comes with being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/questioning, or non-binary gender, can generate immense psychological pressures.
If you have a diverse relationship, gender and/or sexual identity, or are making steps towards this, you may wish to work through any difficulties you are experiencing.
Counselling can support you, or a loved one, in accepting your identity and finding ways to deal with any prejudices and unfairness you may encounter in society. However you identify, you will be honoured and respected by me and I will have some understanding of the social context in which you live your life.
Stress is usually a reaction to mental or emotional pressure. It can begin as pressure from ourselves or others and if you find you are no longer able to cope with this pressure; you start to feel stressed. It's often related to feeling like you're losing control over something, but sometimes there's no obvious cause. You might feel like you want to escape a situation.
Many things can cause stress such as relationships, illness, work or family issues. When someone has long-term (chronic) stress, the continued activation of the stress response causes wear and tear on the body, which leads to physical, emotional and behavioural symptoms developing. You may find you have started using unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage your stress such as drinking, smoking or perhaps your eating habits have changed.
Burnout is a reaction to prolonged job stress and is characterised by three main dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of reduced professional ability.
This is not an exhaustive or exclusive set of difficulties and there are many other issues where counselling may help.
Reach out to me and we can discuss your individual needs.
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