Sometimes there are times in our lives when events and situations cause us pain, suffering or a sense of 'stuckness'. Things can seem very overwhelming or feel too much to cope with.
People have counselling and psychotherapy for a variety of reasons. It could be a relationship breakdown, family issues, grief/loss, stress, anxiety, depression or, perhaps, you don’t fully understand what the issue is. Whatever your reason/s, I would like to try to help you and assure you that you don't have to try cope with things on your own.
You may find it difficult to share these thoughts and emotions with those closest to you or perhaps you feel like you hear too many differing opinions. I want you to know that you don't have to just 'get on with it'. Heart of Harrogate Counselling can hear you and can help.
You are the expert in you so I will work with you in the process of exploring, unpicking and understanding the root cause of your unhappiness or distress and I will be a support alongside you in overcoming or accepting difficulties.
Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, which can range from mild to severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point, as it is the body's natural response to stress but you may find that your anxiety is excessive and that it is having a big impact on your life. It could be that your anxiety manifests itself through a host of physical and mental symptoms. Persistent anxiety can lead to sadness, unhappiness and depression. In counselling, we will work on identifying the underlying factors that cause you to feel anxiety and/or depression and then address them.
Struggling with grief is unbelievably hard and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Most people experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. As well as bereavement, there are other types of loss such as the end of a relationship or losing a job or home. Grief can cause a range of symptoms such as sadness, hopelessness, loss of purpose or guilt, to name a few. In counselling for bereavement, we will work on normalising these feelings and look at your ways of coping. Beyond this, we will try to find meaning in life and work on being able to move forward in a continuing symbolic relationship with your loved one.
The likelihood is that difficulties within the family unit will be impacting on you, emotionally, psychologically and even physically. Making sure you have the support you need is important and could possibly be the best way that you can help you and your child long-term. Every family is different but many families face similar struggles:
* Family arguments *Parental guilt
*Challenging behaviours *Risk taking behaviours
*Bonding & attachment *Anxiety & low mood
*Divorce *School and work life
* Friendships issues, isolation and loneliness
* Marital difficulties
Self esteem is how people value themselves. You may feel positive and confident in your own abilities and your life, or feel negative and highly critical of yourself. Low self-esteem can influence many aspects of your life, including work and relationships with family and friends.
You may spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others; thinking that you don't measure up to them or that you are worthless, which, in turn, affects your confidence.
Counselling can help you explore the way you feel and change your view of yourself and others by helping you to recognise and address the negative messages are that contributing to low self esteem and confidence.
Sadly, LGBTQI individuals are still often judged through a heteronormative lens of what is and isn’t ‘normal' and can find that living with the stigma and oppression that often comes with being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/questioning, or non-binary gender, can generate immense psychological pressures.
If you have a diverse relationship, gender and/or sexual identity, or are making steps towards this, you may wish to work through any difficulties you are experiencing.
Counselling can support you in accepting your own identity and finding ways to deal with the prejudices and unfairness you may encounter from society. However you identify, you will be honoured and respected by me and I will have some understanding of the social context in which you live your life.
Stress is usually a reaction to mental or emotional pressure. It can begin as pressure from ourselves or others and if you find you are no longer able to cope with this pressure; you start to feel stressed. It's often related to feeling like you're losing control over something, but sometimes there's no obvious cause. You might feel like you want to escape a situation.
Many things can cause stress such as relationships, illness, work or family issues. When someone has long-term (chronic) stress, the continued activation of the stress response causes wear and tear on the body, which leads to physical, emotional and behavioural symptoms developing. You may find you have started using unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage your stress such as drinking, smoking or perhaps your eating habits have changed.
Burnout is a reaction to prolonged job stress and is characterised by three main dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of reduced professional ability.
This is not an exhaustive set of difficulties and there are many other issues where counselling may help. Please reach out to me and we can discuss your needs.
In an emergency (immediate danger):
If you're in crisis and need to speak to someone:
Available 24 hours a day to provide confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress, despair or suicidal thoughts.
PAPYRUS is the national charity dedicated to the prevention of young suicide. They support young people under 35 who are experiencing thoughts of suicide, as well as people concerned about someone else.
Their HopelineUK service is open 9am - midnight every day of the year (including weekends and bank holidays).
Contact me for a free initial consultation
07563 179 031
Ashgarth Court, Harrogate, HG2 9LE.